it’s a smaller world now

As Alex previously noted, there’s not a lot going on right now. She’s enjoying her time at Main State and I’m spending an inordinate amount of effort trying to figure out how in the world we are going to ship a dog to Africa during the middle of the summer (also, looking at baby cribs when time permits).

One thing I mentioned to Alex the other day is how much smaller the world seems now that she’s joined the Foreign Service. A year ago when a major international event happened, I would watch the news and learn what I could. I would feel empathy or outrage or whatever other emotion the situation called for. But it was usually in a general sense.

That has changed now.

Where there is an earthquake in Christchurch or violence in Cairo or important elections in Cote d’Iviore, I still watch the news, but now I also realize that I probably know somebody there. There’s somebody I know who is being evacuated or helping evacuate someone else. And usually it’s not just a friend of a friend from college, but somebody who I’ve spoken to or had dinner with in the last few months.

When I hear of breaking international news now, no matter the location, my first thought isn’t “What are the global implications?”, but it’s “Who do I know who lives there?”

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the wait (and the guilt)

I’ve been accused by faraway friends and family members of not posting enough pregnancy photos. Fair enough. So, here you go: 33 weeks and counting. Apparently Albert Einstein was born at 37 weeks, so as far as I’m concerned four more weeks is plenty. Here’s hoping the little one gets the memo…

Apologies for the radio silence on our end, but not much new is going on. In fact, we feel like we’re spending much of our time these days just waiting. Waiting for:

  • The baby to arrive.
  • My mom to finally accept that no matter how often she asks or how vehemently she swears not to tell Andy, I’m really not going to tell her the baby’s name before he arrives.
  • Our departure for Benin.
  • Our departure to be close enough that it makes sense to start stocking up on things.
  • Abbey to finally catch one of the ducks she lunges at every morning at the park along the Potomac.
  • The NCAA tournament to end (Alex).
  • The NHL playoffs to start (Andy).
  • Baby Gap to unveil its summer collection (Alex).
  • Alex to realize the baby’s got enough clothes already (Andy).

We’re really liking our new apartment and our new neighborhood, although it’s much harder to resist the temptation of long weekend walks here than it was back in Arlington, and, according to my doctor, even those are enough exercise to be off limits until I reach 35 weeks. (Shh — don’t tell her. We’ve cheated a little, as evidenced by the photo above.) I’m also enjoying my bridge assignment at Main State — making connections and learning things that will help a lot once I get to Benin.

Still, I feel a little guilty to be enjoying my cushy little life here in DC, while, if all had gone as originally planned, I would have been in Benin already, probably helping monitor the recent presidential elections. All of my A-100 classmates except those who got DC posts are gone now, off doing important things in Libya, Egypt, Bahrain and beyond. I feel bad that I’m not yet contributing in the way I signed up for. I will one day, but for now, I wait…

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people love babies

It started with the cafeteria cashier as I bought my morning (decaf) coffee. “Do you know the gender?” Then, a stranger on the elevator. “How are you feeling?” Next, as I was waiting in the lobby to meet a press contact, a CNN anchor on her way to do a Japan report. “Congratulations on the addition!” And later, one of the highest ranking officials in the African Bureau, whose interview I oversaw. “When’s the baby coming?”

And that was all before noon.

Yes, people love babies alright, even before they’ve arrived. People who otherwise would have no reason to talk to me just start chatting about my pregnancy and then sometimes about their pregnancy or their wife’s pregnancy too. And I don’t think they’re just making polite small talk either, because you see this warm glow come over their faces, like they actually want to know what names we’re considering or how long I’m staying home or whether it will be my first.

In addition to the strangers who speak up, there are dozens more who shoot me a smile as we pass in the hallways. I’ve walked the hallways of Main State before. Trust me, I never used to get that sort of reception.

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diplopets need training too

Now that her consular training is done, my girl owner spends her day at something called “main state” and doesn’t get home until almost six o’clock every night. That means I have a lot of time on my paws and I’ve decided that since I’m going to be a diplopet, I need to learn some new skills to help me when we’re at post.

Because I’m going to be meeting a lot of new people, the first thing I needed to learn was how to shake hands. I couldn’t do it alone, so I employed the help of my boy owner. It took a lot of biscuits and a lot of patience, but I think I’ve finally figured it out.

Nice to meet you. Please give me a biscuit now.

Just between you and me, I actually figured out this whole shaking thing pretty quickly. I was dragging it out because I kept getting more food. Don’t tell my owners.

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settling in

Since Andy doesn’t think it’s important enough to tell you, I will. Guess who was named valedictorian of our ConGen class during “graduation” last week? Yep, my husband! A win for EFMs everywhere!

Too bad this victory was immediately followed by  several miserable days of moving. But the good news is that we’re done, and everyone is settling in nicely — except maybe Abbey, who spends even more of her day than usual sleeping. (She’s never lived in a house with stairs before, and climbing them to tag along any time either one of us goes upstairs is proving quite tiring.)

We, however, love the new place. The hardwood floors. The exposed brick. The location. The two levels. The fact that you can open the front door and let in fresh air. In Andy’s words: “I think this is the only apartment I’ve ever had that I’ve actually liked.” Most importantly, it’ll be a good place to bring home the baby in 10 weeks. Or eight. Eight sounds pretty good right now, as I drag myself out of bed from the evening nap that’s become a part of my daily routine.

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consular officer

Lately my owners have been talking a lot about something called “consular training.” Apparently they are almost finished with a class that will teach them how to become consular officers. I’m not really sure exactly what a consular officer does, but from what I’ve overheard, they can help American citizens when they get into all sorts of trouble overseas – like when they get sick or go to jail, or when someone steals the socks they carefully hid under a bed and they want them back because socks taste so good.

Well let me tell you, I could have used a consular officer this weekend. You see, I was all set to enjoy a relaxing long weekend with my owners when, without doing anything wrong, I was sent to jail! They called it a “kennel” but it seemed like jail to me. There was a phone there for dogs to talk to their owners, but I wasn’t allowed to use it. I don’t think I could have heard anything anyway because all the other prisoners were barking so loud.

One time I heard my owners say that a consular officer will usually visit a prisoner within 24 hours, but nobody came to visit me at all! I had to wait three days before I was rescued. I was treated well, by prison standards. And they did give me that wet food I love so much. (They even told my owners I “gobbled it all up.”) But I was still in prison and I didn’t even know why.

I came to find out later that my owners went to New York City to visit friends and see their old neighborhood one last time before something called a “baby” arrives. They even saw the old dog park where I used to go every day! I loved it there, except when other dogs would try to come in. I hated those guys.

I’m glad everyone is back and it sounds like there won’t be any more trips for a long time. But I’m worried about what this baby thing is. I wonder if a consular officer can help me with that too…

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we’re moving

Remember our whole housing / per diem fiasco? After a very stressful week of obsessively calling and emailing a number of people, we finally got some news at 5 p.m. on Friday:

Yes, we would have to move out of our government-provided housing when my training ended. Yes, we’d have to do this even though my training ended in only a week and a half. No, it didn’t matter that this isn’t what we’d previously been told, and that we’d done everything we could to stay on top of things and make sure not to end up in a situation exactly like this one.

But wait. It gets even more fun. We were presented with two options:

  • In a week and a half or so, find and move into a new apartment that we’d stay in while I worked a bridge assignment at Main State. Not ideal, but not a total surprise after our talks with people last week.

And then, the curve ball:

  • In a week and a half or so, leave for Benin.

Yes, you read that correctly. We’d stay in Benin for about a month before I’d fly back to the US at 34 weeks pregnant. Then I’d do the bridge assignment thing, but this time, having been MedEvac-ed, I’d definitely get to be on per diem.

Clearly, there were some problems with this new option. Transferring to post is not just like picking up and going on vacation on a whim. In addition to the usual packing and such, there’s tons of administrative stuff that needs to be done, as many other bloggers have described, like for instance here and here. Could we do it all in a week and a half, while still in ConGen full-time? We weren’t so sure.

There were a number of advantages to going to Benin right away, though. It’d be kind of great to be able to settle in and size things up, just the two of us. I don’t know about you, but arriving in a totally foreign place and starting a completely new job all the while trying to keep alive a tiny baby we barely know how to take care of yet sounds pretty terrifying to me, frankly. Getting a head start on acclimating to the job and locale before having the baby in tow didn’t sound so bad. Plus, my two years in Benin would start ticking in February, not July. That means I’d go to my next post around February 2013, not July 2013. That means Andy would get to start his Foreign Service career about a half-year sooner.

But of course, there were downsides. In addition to the logistical difficulties, there were medical concerns too — as my mom was very quick to remind me. Even though I’d be coming back to the US at 34 weeks pregnant, what if something went wrong before then? As you can imagine, Benin’s medical care isn’t exactly exceptional.

So we had a lot to think about over the weekend. In the meantime, we started apartment hunting just in case. We looked at a bunch of places but fell in love with a tiny two-bedroom townhouse in Georgetown, located in an old converted paper mill.

Andy loved that it’s right by the C&O canal path where he bikes and runs. I loved that it felt not like corporate housing or a dumpy sublet, but like a real home, somewhere I’d be totally comfortable spending the first month or so of our baby’s life. We both loved that it’s in a great neighborhood with lots of shops, restaurants and foot traffic (the sort of place we might actually get some use out of our stroller).

The problem? We still weren’t clear about our eligibility for medical per diem, and if we weren’t eligible, we weren’t sure this place was going to work for us. Could we technically afford it? Sure. Could we justify paying as much as it cost? Questionable.

Yesterday, I contacted the medical office again, and… Good news! I confirmed with two separate people that, yes, I’m eligible for medical per diem. (Well, at least for three of the four months we’ll be in DC. But that’s good enough for us. Paying out of pocket for a month isn’t so bad.) It seems the confusion was coming from a recent rule change. Under the old code, I wasn’t eligible. Under the new code, I am. I have this in writing. From several people. On several different occasions. Of course I’ll continue to be a tiny bit nervous until the reimbursement money arrives in my bank account, but it sounds like as sure of a thing as these things can be.

So, that decided it for us. We signed the lease this morning and will get the keys later this week.

In a way, it’s too bad. I actually would have loved the chance to spend a month in Benin before having the baby. I asked about this possibility when we first found out we were pregnant, but I guess at the time it wasn’t allowed. At some point since then, the rules have changed. I wish we’d heard about that change a few months ago. Or even a few weeks ago. We definitely could have swung it. But a week and a half? Maybe if I wasn’t pregnant and we didn’t have a dog to factor in. I guess we’re getting older and less adventurous.

Nevertheless, we’re psyched about moving to Georgetown. No offense Arlington, but we’re over you. I’m also psyched that, being in my third trimester, I think I’m totally justified in delegating most of the actual moving to my husband. Tough luck Andy.

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valentine’s day

It’s Valentine’s Day so naturally I’m thinking about a relationship I missed out on. I was propositioned, but I said no. And no doubt someone else took my place. Today I thought about them. Walking around, probably looking so happy together, smiling and excited. I have to admit, it made me a little bit jealous.

That’s right, I’m talking about the 159th A-100 class, the one I was invited to join back in November, and the one that started training today. When I turned down the offer, I was sure I was making the right decision. Today I’m still just as sure, but I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that there was a tiny part of me that wishes I was starting A-100 now, instead of (maybe, hopefully) in two years.

I also realized that Valentine’s Day has another significance in our Foreign Service lives. It’s the day that Alex took the written test in Philadelphia two years ago. To say that it has been an interesting journey would be an understatement and we haven’t even left the country yet. We’re very excited to see where we will be in two more years. (Maybe, hopefully, as a tandem couple.)

And now I am off to figure out directions to the place we’re going to celebrate Valentine’s Day tonight. I wanted to take Alex here but unfortunately there aren’t any options in our area. Also I was afraid she’d divorce me.

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best brunch in dc

As former New Yorkers, we appreciate a good brunch. Sure, you can have brunch elsewhere in the country, but it’s just not the same — not even in other big cities like DC. Not as many places offer brunch, for one thing, and even those that do oftentimes only have it on Sundays. But most importantly, it’s just not always all that good. Here it’s a meal, not a ritual.

We’ve heard time and again that Tabard Inn has the best brunch in DC, and this weekend we finally got around to testing out that claim.

The verdict? Definitely good, but hopefully not the very best in all of DC. For me, the highlight was the restaurant itself. “Labyrinthine” was the word Andy used. The restaurant fills a number of different rooms connected by narrow hallways and steep staircases. Hardwood floors and quirky antique-y furniture give it a cozy feel. The food was solid. We tried out these, their famous donuts:

We also had huevos rancheros and french toast. Everything was good, but not so good I’m going to have cravings for it in the future, which I guess is my criteria for best brunch around.

Other notable DC-area brunches:

Liberty Tavern, Clarendon: Their Sunday buffet for $19 is pretty remarkable. It’s the closest thing to gourmet I’ve ever seen in a buffet.

Whitlow’s on Wilson, Clarendon: Another brunch buffet. This one is a few bucks cheaper, but you lose a lot in quality. The only reason to go is if you’re craving crab legs.

Volt, Frederick: Amazing, but at $35/person for their pre fixe menu, you pay for the amazingness. Plus, it’s like a 45-minute drive away.

Ted’s Bulletin, Capital Hill: Simple breakfast foods, done well. Or so Andy tells me. I was here in the height of my morning sickness.

Belga Cafe, Capital Hill: If I recall correctly the food at this other celebrated DC brunch spot was tasty and a bit unique, but it’s hard to remember because the waiter rushed us out so quickly.

Busboys & Poets, Shirlington: Eh, only a notch or two above Bob Evans. But I put this one on the list because I hear the original location in the U Street Corridor is incredible. I haven’t made it there yet, sadly.

Other brunch suggestions are most certainly welcome!

P.S. No, our housing / per diem situation is still not resolved. In fact, it’s gotten way more complicated. More about that next week, when (hopefully!) everything’s settled.

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work, finally

Well, it was good while it lasted: Almost a year after joining the Department of State, they’re finally making me do some work.

Actually, I’m thrilled. As much as I dreaded maternity business suits and an 8+ hour workday a few months back, now I actually find myself excited about the change. I’m tired of lectures. I’m tired of homework. I’m tired of theory. I want to do something. (Plus, Main State’s cafeteria is way better than FSI’s.)

I’ve lined up a bridge assignment with AF/PDPA, or in plain English, the Africa bureau’s public diplomacy office. I’ll start as soon as ConGen ends, two weeks from today, and work as close to my due date as I’m able. Seeing as how I’m going to Africa to do public diplomacy work, I expect the next few months to be both interesting and useful.

I just hope my colleagues take pity on me with the whole business suit thing, because I can’t bring myself to buy any maternity ones. Here’s hoping creative use of my existing wardrobe will suffice…

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