change of plans

The original plan was for me to leave Benin in mid-June and go directly to a temporary assignment in DC, which I’d stick with until my due date in mid-August.

Coming soon: baby #2.

To be honest, I’m not exactly sure how this plan came to be. I guess I never really considered another option. I worked up until the day I gave birth to Flynn, so why wouldn’t I do the same this time? Besides, I’ve had a job — oftentimes multiple jobs simultaneously — since I was 15, and I don’t think there’s ever been a stretch when I haven’t worked unless there was a very good reason not to, like maternity leave #1. So of course I’d work when I got back to DC.

Except, well…. enter beauracracy.

It’s not worth going into all the details, but suffice it to say that about a month before I was scheduled to leave Benin I got word that I couldn’t work a temporary assignment in DC after all. It was a decision that didn’t make sense for a lot of reasons, and one I’m sure I could get overturned if I fought it, but it got me to thinking… was this really worth the fight? Did I even need or buy paxil want to work?

Financially, me working isn’t crucial to our family finances now that Andy’s an FSO too. Professionally, not working wouldn’t really be any worse than a temporary assignment. Logistically, it would certainly be easier to manage moving into a new house and all that goes along with that if one of us were at home during the week. Personally, spending quality time with Flynn taking advantage of the many fun toddler activities we’ve missed out on during the last two years in Africa sounded pretty great too.

Really, why didn’t I consider this option before?

Between this break, maternity leave, and an uncertain but likely far off start date for Spanish training, it may very well be a good long while before I return to work. And, much to my surprise, that is just fine with me.

Hello third trimester.

So if you happen to be in Northern Virginia and are looking to meet up at a playground or water park or ice cream shop in the middle of the day — I’m your gal.

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7 Responses to change of plans

  1. Tiffany says:

    You’re beautiful! So exciting! Interestingly enough I, too, decided not to go back to work. Financially, we’d be OK and also I was only working part-time, so we couldn’t justify hiring a Nanny and after paying her, being left with only $100 from my paycheck a month. Not worth it! Plus, as 1st time parents, we were too freaked out to leave our newborn with a Nanny. So home I will be! I hope you’re feeling well and that Baby is happy!

  2. Natalia says:

    moving from US Emb Rabat to N. VA in August…2.5 year old in tow. Would love to meet you 🙂

  3. Louise says:

    Congratulations!
    I enjoy your blog. How about a post on how any fears you may have had regarding bringing a baby to Benin, West Africa were or were not founded, now that you’re about to leave ( i.e.- was it hard for him to take anti-malarials?)

  4. STMemory says:

    Wow! All sorts of changes for you guys! Congrats on the house and figuring out a schedule for the next few months. That sounds wonderful.

  5. Anne says:

    I have no clue when we will arrive in DC, August? September maybe, but definitely count me in for play dates!

  6. Jen says:

    Wow! That’s so exciting! I did something similar when Cait was a year old, due to the fact that daycare is insanely expensive here and with his travel and me working full-time…we didn’t really see much of each other.

    Well, let me know if you still need that mother’s helper kind of help, even if just for unpacking!

  7. Lynne says:

    We’d totally be up for the playdates, maybe meeting up in DC (zoo, museums, Playseum I keep hearing so much about). Embrace the “vacation” 🙂

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